If you’ve been there, you know how embarrassing it is. If you haven’t, it’s hard to explain.
Things start to heat up. Everything’s going great. But then, for some reason you can’t even begin to explain, things just aren’t working for you. Try as you might—and as badly as you want to—you just can’t seem to get a full erection.
You apologize. You feel weird and humiliated, like you’ve somehow offended your partner. You promise to never speak of it again, but for many of us, you know you’ll have to. It’s all too regular of an occurrence.
That’s the bad news, but believe it or not, there is a silver lining to all this. More than one silver lining, actually, and to see it, there’s one truth you’re going to have to accept. One very difficult but very reassuring fact you’ll have to drill into your head. Here it is:
It’s not weird.
You may have to say it out loud for it to fully sink in, so say it, if you must. “It’s not weird.” There’s nothing weird about being unable to get an erection. There’s nothing weird about erectile dysfunction. Low testosterone. Performance issues. These are all normal things that happen men young, old, single, married, gay and straight.
It’s hard to determine where exactly the stigma about ED began, but the fact is, many men associate it with a lack of masculinity and a blow to their pride. A real man is a stallion in the sack. He never struggles in bed. He never has to worry about testosterone levels. This is the myth of the modern American man and, unfortunately, it’s a myth too many of us have bought into.
This makes seeking treatment for ED much less likely, since nobody wants to admit to a problem they’re ashamed of. For many men, the thought of divulging embarrassing details about our sex life to a doctor sounds humiliating to the point of being impossible. The doctor may laugh in your face, kick you out of his office and perhaps write about you in the local paper. And so, rather than risk the humiliation of telling someone else about our issues, we assume they’re weird and continue to suffer in silence.
According to WebMD, about five percent of men struggle with erectile dysfunction, and that number only increases as you get older. Five percent may not sound like very much but given the fact that many doctors see around 30-40 patients a day, you probably aren’t even the first case of ED your doctor will have treated in his week.
And by the way, you should see a doctor about this. Just because erectile dysfunction isn’t weird doesn’t mean you have to accept it as your new norm. The number of treatments available for men with ED might surprise you, and many of them are not nearly as complicated (or expensive) as you might think. If you take the time to book an appointment with us, you might be surprised at just how simple the process can be.
So, like we said, there is a silver lining to all this: Not only is ED pretty common—it’s not even that complicated to address. The stigma against it is a cultural fabrication, and the benefits of seeking help for it are pretty obvious.
And all that comes from realizing one simple truth: erectile dysfunction isn’t weird.